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Some people have no respect

Someone posted the following comment to the previous entry. You can read it in full, but here’s an excerpt:

Now then, to the issue at hand. Your hari has promised to take you out to eat somewhere. May I suggest, having looked at the silhouette of you and your other half (though I am unsure as to whether this is the right phrase all things considered, perhaps 2/3 or 3/4 would be more appropriate), that you keep your distance and give her a full feed, lest you be the subject of a the next JK Rowling installment: Hari’s Potty and shes gobbling up Neil. I suggest that she present you with a more appealing girlfriend for your birthday present in order that you dont have to hide her identity, she is i assume not a crimefighter like superman or wonderwoman, so one has to presume reasons other than the safety of mankind for your decision to give her the pseudonym “hari”.

This isn’t the first time someone has bitched about my girlfriend on here, but that time I deleted the comment. I’m letting this one stay, after discussing it with Hari, but I really do not tolerate personal attacks against me or my girlfriend. It’s not nice.
Incidentally the IP address used to post the comment came from Leeds General Infirmary – maybe they are a mental patient there?


  1. I’m shocked! Hari isn’t her real name??
    That wasn’t a very nice comment at all. So what if she doesn’t want her real name or picture being given out. Some people are very careful with their identity online. It doesn’t automatically mean they’re hideously ugly or anything. I’m surprised you didn’t delete the comment from the moderation queue.
    That attack is quite pathetic.

  2. That’s completely uncalled for. As noted above, some people are very concerned about their online identity. I’ve had friends who have asked me to use a pseudonym for them and/or to erase any reference to them on my blog. It’s not that they are angry with me, but that they are protective of themselves. Heck, I use a pseudonym for the blog though not everywhere else online.

  3. I agree, that’s very disrespectful and uncalled for.
    Pathetic is a good description.

  4. Your choice, of course, but I’d have deleted it without hesitation. Deny a troll screen space, and it tends to go elsewhere.
    I never publish more than my friends’ first names, and Helen is usually just ‘H’. I certainly don’t publish photos of people, and don’t let others publish photos of me – there are too many nutters out there, as you now know. 😉

  5. Guess what, my identity’s secret too. My real name isn’t Muppetette (athough that would be so much cooler than my real name, which Neil knows, and I’m sure is around somewhere).
    I don’t keep myself a secret because of any reason other than I don’t want my friends or employers to stumble across some of the things I say. Simple as.

  6. I get comments like this as well and don’t even give a second thought to deleting them. If you publish such nonsense, it only encourages them to post more.
    There are many, many things that I do not feel comfortable sharing with the entire world on my blog and, if people are upset about that, then they don’t have to read it.

  7. I took a lot of abuse on my own personal site, you get idiots everywhere. I expect a certain degree of idiocy and criticism.
    But I really drew the line with abuse on friends and had some really quite offensive stuff said about female-friends I wasn’t involved with. There are so many idiots about.
    On a lighter note, I think this is a good time to start off the general best wishes for you and hari!

  8. first time commenter, all I can say is that a small minority of idiots get jealous at other peoples happiness

  9. i am the one who wrote the comment neil, and have been proved wrong. I wrote what i did as i thought you would not post it as a discussion topic. I do not know you, but just have been told by people you know that you are a dickhead, but they have recently changed their mind about this and as such i have realised that they were lying. They will have to live that lie for the rest of their life. However I have seen that you are a very open minded guy who uses discussion boards for discussion, and as such have realised i am not as good as you. It wont happen again. I apologise, i have too much time on my hands and have insulteed you because of my state of inertia and boredom. I can only say i am humbled by your enthusiasm.